I realize that I don't often give you a window into what I am thinking, and what my thought processes are so, thank you for taking the time to follow up with my request to read this article. Some points that I would you to look at.
See paragraphs 1-3.

"Don't get me wrong..." Does this at least partially explain why our Eagle teams have consistently made mistakes in bunches? Having long lapses until we recover? Surendering a big inning with mistake after mistake, a long bad inning. One 3-inning stretch during the game where we produce no offense. Players have to be able to play through mistakes, and stop the downward spiral. The ability to "turn the page." Play the game one pitch at a time. This is a sign of mental toughness. We need more of this. If you haven't already, please purchase the Ken Ravizza book. The boys will need to bring it to Thursday's (6/17) practice this week. Facing adversity is basically what the entire book is about.
See paragraphs 4-9.

"But is..." We are all trying to help our sons accomplish multiple goals at the same time...Become better people, become responsible, learn to work hard, face adversity and overcome it. The coach's job is to help you accomplish these same things through the vehicle of baseball. Are we teaching our kids to respond properly in the face of adversity? Adversity can come from sitting on the bench, making gameday mistakes, falling behing in games, failing to come through, etc. The article suggests we can be guilty of deflecting the player's responsibility to learn from his mistakes, and diminishing the boys desire and willingness to work on his shortcommings, by suggesting that the problem isn't their fault. I understand this can be a hard one for parents, I am one, and I am a little league dad, I see this all the time at the little league level. The boys are older now, they can accept responsibility. We should be giving our boys the opportunity to accept responsibility.

Take our own lives for example. Those of us who are employees, don't we get raises and bonuses yearly based on our performance (poor economy notwithstanding). That's always a positive, at least until the next sentence comes out. Doesn't that praise and reward always come with a, "Great job last year. Now...next year we need to improve on..."

What about those of us who are bosses, managers, business owners, etc. Don't we use the exact same language when we're the ones giving bonuses and raises to our employees?

Sounds like we say, and we are told the same thing, "Great job, now go out and improve in the following aspects of you job." Do we ever really hear our bosses tell us, or do we as bosses say, "Tough year, sales were down, we're losing money, but there's nothing you can do about it. It's someone else's fault. You're good enough." We're always asked, or we are asking others to do more.

Thank you for your time, and I sincerely hope this helps you as parents have a better understanding of what I am trying to accomplish, all withing the context of trying to win games,
Coach Barsanti